Sunshine After the Storm: Healing and Rebuilding

It's May, and the sun is starting to shine, and the air is becoming warmer.  My thoughts are turning to what will be.  Where am I going?  How am I getting there?  The idea of sunshine and happiness is something that I love the thought of, but can only enjoy it in bits and pieces, and that's okay.  It is what it is.  I've gotten used to a new norm.  To the things that bring me joy and the things that don't.  And again, I know it's okay to not be okay.

I talk a lot about "trusting the process" in my work as a Medium.  In my Spiritual work, that is a no-brainer.  It makes me able to provide the information I need to provide without my humanness getting in the way.  It makes me a good conduit for Spirit.  But trusting the process of humanness is a whole other ball game and one that I am just starting to get the hang of.

A traumatic event (no matter what the trauma is) turns our world upside down, and we find ourselves trying to navigate a world we thought we knew from a very different perspective than we are used to.  And generally it is not a perspective that we want to embrace or even want to encounter or, better yet, that we ever saw ourselves having to endure.    These are all the human emotions that happen when our worlds get turned upside down.

But our options are limited.  We have few choices in how to handle this new world, but we do have choices.  We can be defined by the things that happen in our lives that cause us pain and sorrow, or we can start to build the pieces of our lives back around the loss, situation, incident, and start to accept that whatever this trauma is has purpose for us.  We don't necessarily have to understand what that purpose is (or that lesson ugh) because if we decide that we have to know beyond a shadow of a doubt why something happened and there are no answers that really fill our void, then we can easily drown in that loss and that void.  

Instead, lean into the feels, but don't be owned by them.  Move into the idea that this new you had the ability to be amazing in a way that maybe the old you couldn't be.  Take the time you need and be selfish.  Heal your way.  You first!  Everyone and everything can come later.  

And most importantly, do it your way.  Because it is the only way that will give you the peace of mind that you are truly able to be this someone new.  You don't owe anyone anything else.  IF they don't like it...Bye Felicia.