What It Feels Like to Live as Your Higher Self

"What does living as your Higher Self actually feel like? Is it constant peace? Is it never making mistakes? Is it walking around with some kind of enlightened glow?" I literally wish it was the last one lol!

If that's the picture you've been given, I hate to burst the bubble, Lovee... but that's not real life.

A BIG misconception I hear over and over is that once you "connect with your Higher Self," everything becomes easy. You stop overthinking. You never get triggered. You make perfect decisions, and life just flows.

Nope. Nada.  Immediately NO.

Your Higher Self isn't here to take away your humanity.

It's here to help you navigate it.

As an Empowerment Medium, I've had the privilege of watching hundreds of people reconnect with themselves. And if there's one thing Spirit has shown me over and over again, it's this: your Higher Self isn't some distant version of you that you'll finally meet one day. It's already here. The challenge is that we've become so used to listening to fear, self-doubt, and everyone else's opinions that we've forgotten how to hear our own inner wisdom.  We are Spirit having a human experience yes, but at the core we are still Spirit.  Following????

The goal isn't to become your Higher Self all the time.

The goal is to allow your human self and your Higher Self to work together.

So... What Does It Actually Feel Like?

Do NOT expect it to happen with fireworks or some dramatic spiritual awakening.

That's rarely how it happens.

More often than not, you look back one day and realize you've been changing all along.

Here are some of the shifts I notice happening in real time for my clients, myself and most of those around me.  Knowingly or unknowingly!

You Stop Needing Everyone Else's Permission

You still value the opinions of people you trust.

But you don't need everyone to agree before making a decision.

Instead of asking,

"What do you think I should do?"

you begin asking,

"What already feels like it's the real me?"

That inner knowing becomes stronger.

Steadier.  And that is our ultimate goal in working with our Higher Self.  That authentic steady drive of positive movement forward Lovees!  

You Feel Lighter

Not because life suddenly becomes easy.  Easy is nice.  We do love us some "easy" but we also know that nothing is perfect and that easy doesn't mean we don't have to do the hard work to get to easy.

First things first.  Stop carrying things that were never yours in the first place.

Other people's expectations.

The pressure to keep everyone happy.

The need to explain yourself.

The constant comparison.

Those things slowly begin to lose their grip.

I've seen this happen so many times in readings. People often come looking for answers from Spirit, but what they leave with is permission to trust themselves again. That's where the real transformation begins.  Remember Spirit gives us the tools.  They work with us not for us and that is sooo important to remember in leveling yourself up intuitively and authentically.  

Your Decisions Become More Aligned

Living from your Higher Self doesn't always mean making the easiest choice.  Remember what I said above.  Change isn't always as easy as we would like and that is just fine.  Once you come to terms with that aspect - that's when the easy starts to happen!  Yasss my friends, things do get easier as we learn, transform and step into acceptance.  Weeeee lol!

Sometimes it asks you to leave the job.

Have the difficult conversation.

End the unhealthy relationship.

Start the business.

Say no.

Say yes.

The decision may still feel uncomfortable.

But underneath the discomfort is a quiet sense of peace because, deep down, you know it's the right next step.

There's a huge difference.

You Recognize Fear Faster

Fear isn't bad.

It's trying to protect you.  Seriously, it is.

The problem is that many of us have allowed fear to become the loudest voice in the room.

Your Higher Self sounds different.

Fear says,

"What if this all goes wrong?"

Your Higher Self asks,

"Who do you become if you trust yourself?"

Fear creates urgency.

Your Higher Self creates clarity.

I often remind my students that your Higher Self rarely shouts. It doesn't have to. It's steady, patient, and consistent. Fear is usually the one making all the noise.

You Become More Authentic

This is one of my favourite parts.  Here we go!

You stop performing.

You stop trying to fit into places you've already outgrown.

You stop pretending you're okay when you're not.

You stop saying yes when every part of you wants to say no.

You begin showing up as yourself.

Not the version everyone expects you to be.

The version you actually are.

And trust me...

That feels incredibly freeing.

Here's the Part We Don't Talk About Enough

Living as your Higher Self doesn't mean you never get frustrated because reminder!!  That's part of our human experience. 

You'll still have bad days.

You'll still doubt yourself sometimes.

You'll still experience grief, disappointment, and uncertainty.

The difference is that you don't stay there as long.

Why?

Because you've built a relationship with the wisest part of yourself.

Instead of believing every fearful thought that pops into your mind, you become curious.

You pause.

You breathe.

You ask,

"What would my Higher Self see that I'm missing right now?"

That one question alone can completely shift your perspective.

My Philosophy

Let's have a quick chat about where people can find their Higher Self.  I get asked this all the time.

My answer always surprises them.

I don't believe you have to go searching for it.

I believe it's been walking beside you and within you, your entire life.

It's the quiet knowing you've talked yourself out of.

It's the feeling that said, "This doesn't feel right," before your mind convinced you otherwise.

It's the excitement that kept nudging you toward something bigger while fear kept pulling you back.

Spirit has never shown me someone who was missing their Higher Self.

I've only met people who had stopped trusting it.

Living as your Higher Self doesn't make you better than anyone else.

It simply helps you become more fully yourself.

And that's where authentic confidence comes from.

That's where inner peace begins.

That's where real empowerment lives.

A Practical Exercise

The next time you're faced with a decision, before asking everyone else what they think, try this.

Take three slow breaths.

Place your hand over your heart.

Then ask yourself,

"If fear wasn't making this decision, what would my Higher Self choose?"

Don't force an answer.

Just notice what comes up.

Your first response is often far wiser than you give it credit for.

Take a Moment

Spend a few quiet minutes today reflecting on this question:

Where in my life have I been listening to fear more than I've been listening to myself?

You don't have to change everything overnight.

Sometimes the biggest transformation begins by recognizing that your Higher Self has been trying to guide you all along.

One choice.

One moment.

One courageous step at a time.

Stay Divine, Lovees, and I'll see you next week!