Behind the Facade: The Sacred Truth of Being Real

There’s a moment—maybe you’ve felt it—where someone asks how you are, and without thinking, you smile and say, “I’m good!” But deep inside, you’re most definitely not!  Maybe you’re tired. Maybe you’re furious. Maybe you’re just trying to hold it together for one more day.  I feel personally like I experience all of this most of the time.

I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately: the masks we wear and how easily we slip into them. We do it so often that we hardly notice. We say we’re fine when we’re not. We laugh when we want to cry. We keep peace when our soul is screaming for truth.  

Why do we do this?

Because it is just easier.  Honestly.  It is.  I believe it’s part protection, part programming. Somewhere along the way, we learned that being fully seen—emotionally naked—wasn’t safe. Maybe we were shamed for being “too sensitive” or “too much.” Maybe we watched others around us get punished for being vulnerable. So we learned to armor up, to edit ourselves, to hide the mess.  

And let’s be honest: pretending can be easier. It’s tidy. It makes others comfortable. And as Empaths most of us strive to make others more comfortable.  I'm a perfect example.  Who stands at the door of the son's celebration of life and hugs every person that comes in.....But it comes at a cost.

When we deny our true emotions, we disconnect from our own truth. We silence the signals that tell us what we need, what we love, what hurts. And over time, that silencing becomes a habit, then a mask, then a cage.

But here’s the sacred truth: you are allowed to feel it all.

Anger. Grief. Joy. Confusion. Ecstasy. Doubt. Bliss. Your emotional spectrum is not something to fix—it’s something to honor. It’s how your soul communicates. Being authentic in your emotions isn’t weakness; it’s a form of spiritual sovereignty.  Yeah baby!

So I invite you—just for today—to notice where you hide. Ask yourself gently:

• Am I saying I’m okay because I actually am… or because I don’t want to make anyone uncomfortable?

• What am I afraid would happen if I let myself be fully seen right now?

• What do I need, truly need, that I’m too afraid to ask for?

This isn’t about being dramatic or spilling our guts to everyone we meet.  It’s about living with integrity. It’s about letting our outer expression match our inner reality—especially in safe spaces, especially with ourselves.

Although I will be honest, I've spilled my guts in my grieving process.  I have told absolute strangers that my son was murdered.  Period.  I'm not sure why I feel it's necessary to do so and I think I've traumatized the sales girl at Lululemon in Whistler, but I feel I needed to!  

Spirit doesn’t just speak through our light. Spirit speaks through our shadows too. Through the shaky moments. Through the tears. Through the fierce truth we’ve held inside for far too long.

You don’t have to have it all together. You just have to be willing to be real.

That’s where healing begins.
That’s where connection deepens.
That’s where your magic returns.

Stay Divine Lovees—
Tara Diana