Happy Holidays - Merry Christmas to All. Including me!

It doesn't matter to me what you celebrate this time of year!  How you bring forth the festivities is yours and yours alone.  But if you are not including yourself in your celebrations in a meaningful way, you are missing out on some of the most important reflections you can have about yourself AND others!

 

What I do want to do is recognize all the emotions associated with this time of year.  The scale of emotions is so vast and can be so consuming whether you are sitting in sadness and sorrow or joy and happiness.

 

This time of year I celebrate so much!  I celebrate family, friends, clients but it has only been within the last two years that I have actually come to the realization that I need to celebrate myself as well.  When I sat back in reflection I was surprised to realize just how little time I gave to myself.  That most of what I focused on was what I could do for others, not what I could do for myself!  And that my friends, was an eye opener!  

 

And how in the great Goddesses name is that empowering?  It's not!  It is so not empowering - not in the least.  In fact, it actually took me out of my power.  And let me explain why to you in my humble opinion.

 

I truly believe that we all work in the flow of a Body, Mind, Spirit connection.  If our Body is not working well our mind is focused solely on our physical self and therefore our Spiritual self is disregarded (yes, even if we think we are asking for Spiritual guidance to heal our physical self we are working with Spirit as opposed to working with OUR higher self). 

 

The human mindset for many of us is to go to what can I do for others?  It rarely is what can I do for myself.  The need to help others can be so great in fact that it becomes an unconscious obsession.  A constant circle of making people happy at our own expense.  And that in turn leaves us depleted and energetically unavailable for ourselves.  By the time we realize that we haven't been looking after ourselves, we have been through the wringer of an emotional and mental health crisis (which can very well lead to physical ailments) and it is here that bitterness, resentment and anger take hold.  Hard emotions!

 

Why do we let ourselves get to that space?  It looks different for everyone for sure!  We can all be strong in many different aspects of our lives, but there are very few people I know that would say there is nothing that needs addressing in their lives, be it big or small.  We let ourselves fall because truthfully the hard work can be overwhelming and it is easier to sit in the current energy then it is to rise above it!

 

Empowering ourselves comes from within.  We must convince ourselves that we are worthy of the work.  Then we must learn how to do the work.  Spirit works with us not for us but there are many ways to embrace the idea that you are worthy and start the work!  The work that will raise your vibration!  Give you the tools necessary to use All Day, Every Day in your life to help you navigate the human emotional roller coaster.  

 

I learnt to love myself and give myself grace the very hard way and it took me years.  I am so grateful for the continuous lessons Spirit threw at me.  I know I fought some of them tooth and nail.  I resisted because the thought of loving me was so foreign and hard and it took away from helping others.  I had to literally hit a rock bottom space and work my way back up to find myself AND still be there for others.  It was a journey like no other let me tell you.  I'm lucky my husband is so wonderful because it was a ride lol!

 

This holiday season, I asked Spirit to show me what I can do to help people navigate my favorite time of year!  To make the work on ourselves fun, purposeful and relevant to the Winter Solstice of self-love and self-care.   So I channeled The Twelve Days of Christmas Cheer!  Consider it your guide self-care during a very busy time of the year.  Check it out on my website for all the details.

 

Know that you have the time to do this for yourself.  You are worth it.  Come and embrace the idea that you are so much more than you realize and accept that you have the ability to change the narrative of how you do you!

 

This is the ultimate Christmas Gift to you.  And if you know of anyone that needs to see this message...pass it along!  It should be shared!

 

Working with you and Spirit!  Tara Diana